What Do You Want To Do Before You Die?
THE "ANTI-BURIED LIFE LIST"
11 things I want to STOP DOING BEFORE I DIE.
my uncle just told me to write a list of my problems and to work on them one by one... alot like my Buried life list... but it became less a list of things I wanted to take care of and more just a list of poor character traits and habits that are ruining my life.
feel free to skip down to the list... after the list I describe how I am working on the listed problems.
Hi Kevin, sorry about the late response.
Yes I did call the prosecutors and so forth. They said I was charged because my insurance did not cover me in that vehicle and the other charges were still applicable. I spoke with legal services, and they did not feel that I was eligible because they feel my guilt is evident... so... its pretty cemented because the prosecutors told me my time for defense and appeal were suspended because of me not showing up for trial, so I was charged as guilty.
so I just have to get the money, and fork it over.
On my list of problems, thats funny, I hadn't read this email... but Ive been working on a list "problems"... I haven't written a hard copy of my problems, mostly just journal entries and meditations and so forth. I've been making some pretty good progress on my "problems" though. Mainly:
1) excessive socializing (codependency)
2) excessive drinking (which pretty much goes hand with the socializing).
3) smoking (a social habit)
4) poor diet (due to poor prioritizing of time and money)
5) excessive tv
6) wasting time pursuing and entertaining frivolous relationships with women.
7) excessive sleeping
8) unhealthy/unproductive sleep schedule
9) excessive internet
10) poor money management (mainly drinking, dating, impulse purchases, and gas)
11) procrastination/avoidance of important tasks and responsibilities
so that is the main list, finally written down, those have been floating around my head for the past two months predominately. Its nice to have this list now, versus having my intangible enemies floating around my like wraiths.
I have been making progress though.
I am now purely a social smoker: I haven't bought a pack for two months. and as of late haven't even felt compelled to smoke more than maybe one or two, and thats only if im drinking.
I have gotten slightly better at saying 'no' when invited out for socializing... Ive gone from nightly to about 5 nights a week. not where I want to be, but that will change as soon I move on the 12th of July.
saying no has become easier because I have been really thinking about HOW LITTLE my "friends" and I ACTUALLY have in common.
My diet has become MUCH better mainly because I developed a visible beer gut in may, and my lack of a six pack was damaging enough to my self esteem to jolt me back into a routine of exercise and a healthy diet (exercising also makes turning down cigarettes easier)
Excessive sleeping was/is caused by poor sleep schedule and a lack of daily goals and priorities. Last week I picked up this tip from a website zenhabits.net. It has all kinds of tips on maximizing health and productivity. it has help me get to bed earlier and to make daily goals for myself so I actually HAVE A REASON to wake up in the morning... I normally slept so much because I enjoy my dreams so much better than reality... and because being awake was expensive: I had to drive places, and feed myself and so forth... but those were just excuses.
That has helped reduce procrastination and avoidance... so that went into effect a week ago, I plan on continuing with these schedules and routines.
after organizing my tasks it has been easier to shut off the tv because I actually have something organized to go work on.
Just looking at my expenses on paper has made it easier for me to think a little wiser before spending my money... Im still not great, but I bike more often, and I am no longer "Mister Generous" out at the bars... and with my impending move it has made it easier to turn down opportunities with women, opportunities that normally involve spending money.
Women are one of my largest weaknesses, so really I just need to continue meditation on the problem. reminding myself that 99% of women are a waste of time (romantically) and evolving my mindset to a point where I no longer feel an extreme sense of loss when I turn down an opportunity with a woman.
Its funny that you suggest this list, its kind of the 'Yin' to a 'Yang' list I made about two weeks ago.
I joined this social networking site, Theburiedlife.com, a couple of weeks ago. the entire focus of the website is for people to write down their life goals and then work towards completing all their goals... it is a social network site because Ideally all the members will do what they can to help other members accomplish things on their list.
I wrote my entire list of 100 items about 12 days ago and it has really provided a large amount of focus in my life. you can see the list at http://buriedlife.ning.com/profile/Nick89.
well sorry if this is more than you bargained for... but know that I appreciate your concern... and I am sorry I have been such a distant ungrateful nephew...
understand, for certain reasons, family has never been a very high priority in my life... but I am reconsidering that position... and I am trying to decide on a happy balance between being my own, independent person, while at the same time showing care, concern, and gratitude towards those who deserve care, concern, and gratitude from me.
my uncle just told me to write a list of my problems and to work on them one by one... alot like my Buried life list... but it became less a list of things I wanted to take care of and more just a list of poor character traits and habits that are ruining my life.
feel free to skip down to the list... after the list I describe how I am working on the listed problems.
Hi Kevin, sorry about the late response.
Yes I did call the prosecutors and so forth. They said I was charged because my insurance did not cover me in that vehicle and the other charges were still applicable. I spoke with legal services, and they did not feel that I was eligible because they feel my guilt is evident... so... its pretty cemented because the prosecutors told me my time for defense and appeal were suspended because of me not showing up for trial, so I was charged as guilty.
so I just have to get the money, and fork it over.
On my list of problems, thats funny, I hadn't read this email... but Ive been working on a list "problems"... I haven't written a hard copy of my problems, mostly just journal entries and meditations and so forth. I've been making some pretty good progress on my "problems" though. Mainly:
1) excessive socializing (codependency)
2) excessive drinking (which pretty much goes hand with the socializing).
3) smoking (a social habit)
4) poor diet (due to poor prioritizing of time and money)
5) excessive tv
6) wasting time pursuing and entertaining frivolous relationships with women.
7) excessive sleeping
8) unhealthy/unproductive sleep schedule
9) excessive internet
10) poor money management (mainly drinking, dating, impulse purchases, and gas)
11) procrastination/avoidance of important tasks and responsibilities
so that is the main list, finally written down, those have been floating around my head for the past two months predominately. Its nice to have this list now, versus having my intangible enemies floating around my like wraiths.
I have been making progress though.
I am now purely a social smoker: I haven't bought a pack for two months. and as of late haven't even felt compelled to smoke more than maybe one or two, and thats only if im drinking.
I have gotten slightly better at saying 'no' when invited out for socializing... Ive gone from nightly to about 5 nights a week. not where I want to be, but that will change as soon I move on the 12th of July.
saying no has become easier because I have been really thinking about HOW LITTLE my "friends" and I ACTUALLY have in common.
My diet has become MUCH better mainly because I developed a visible beer gut in may, and my lack of a six pack was damaging enough to my self esteem to jolt me back into a routine of exercise and a healthy diet (exercising also makes turning down cigarettes easier)
Excessive sleeping was/is caused by poor sleep schedule and a lack of daily goals and priorities. Last week I picked up this tip from a website zenhabits.net. It has all kinds of tips on maximizing health and productivity. it has help me get to bed earlier and to make daily goals for myself so I actually HAVE A REASON to wake up in the morning... I normally slept so much because I enjoy my dreams so much better than reality... and because being awake was expensive: I had to drive places, and feed myself and so forth... but those were just excuses.
That has helped reduce procrastination and avoidance... so that went into effect a week ago, I plan on continuing with these schedules and routines.
after organizing my tasks it has been easier to shut off the tv because I actually have something organized to go work on.
Just looking at my expenses on paper has made it easier for me to think a little wiser before spending my money... Im still not great, but I bike more often, and I am no longer "Mister Generous" out at the bars... and with my impending move it has made it easier to turn down opportunities with women, opportunities that normally involve spending money.
Women are one of my largest weaknesses, so really I just need to continue meditation on the problem. reminding myself that 99% of women are a waste of time (romantically) and evolving my mindset to a point where I no longer feel an extreme sense of loss when I turn down an opportunity with a woman.
Its funny that you suggest this list, its kind of the 'Yin' to a 'Yang' list I made about two weeks ago.
I joined this social networking site, Theburiedlife.com, a couple of weeks ago. the entire focus of the website is for people to write down their life goals and then work towards completing all their goals... it is a social network site because Ideally all the members will do what they can to help other members accomplish things on their list.
I wrote my entire list of 100 items about 12 days ago and it has really provided a large amount of focus in my life. you can see the list at http://buriedlife.ning.com/profile/Nick89.
well sorry if this is more than you bargained for... but know that I appreciate your concern... and I am sorry I have been such a distant ungrateful nephew...
understand, for certain reasons, family has never been a very high priority in my life... but I am reconsidering that position... and I am trying to decide on a happy balance between being my own, independent person, while at the same time showing care, concern, and gratitude towards those who deserve care, concern, and gratitude from me.
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Comment by Bethany K. on September 15, 2009 at 8:39am - i like!
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Comment by Nick on September 10, 2008 at 9:25am -
but as far as your un-buried life list... I have to say...
lord I can't believe Im going to tell a 14 year old this...
1. well there is something amazing about the experience of good tobacco... I almost feel as if life would be incomplete without it. dont get addicted... but there is something supernatural when a smoke can be enjoyed.
2. getting arrested is all up to the police not to you... I'm not religious, but this makes me think about the bible: "follow the laws of your heavenly father, not the rules of man"... follow your own rules Blake... and there will might be a time in the future where your rules break some of the rules our government pushes on you that you will refuse to accept... if and when that day comes, there will be NOTHING wrong with getting arrested.
3. if done right, getting drunk out of your skull can be amazing as well, just make sure you have good friends around. Losing sense is sometimes the best way to find out more about yourself.
4. good. it would be nice if we could avoid putting people down entirely... but its true that hurt feelings are inevitable.
5. never get fat. gluttony and sloth are the main causes of girth. two of the worse deadly sins.
6. I wish you the best with these arguments, but there are some peple who will never allow some arguments to come to an end.
dude thanks again for the comment. sounds like youre off to a great start. I wish I was where you are (with the knowledge I have now) so I could have made the better choices... but oh well. I have taken the trial and error route to life.
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Comment by Jay on September 1, 2008 at 10:36pm -
That's a very good idea for a list. Because of you i had and idea to make a list(in addition to 100 things i want to do) of things i don't ever want to start. I'm 14 and in case you care here is my list: Don't Ever
1. Smoke
2. Get Arrested
3. Drink to the point where I lose Sense
4. Put anyone down without apologizing
5. Get Fat
6. Leave an Argument unfinished
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